I believe that we all long for deep intimacy. I also believe that we are deathly afraid of the vulnerability it takes to cultivate such depth of connection in our relationships.

In a recent article I wrote for Marriage.com titled “3 ways to cultivate intimacy in your marriage,” I share with readers my perspective on what keeps couples from meeting one another from a deeper place. The way in which our conditioning drives us to try to control ourselves and our partners in an attempt to find permanence and safety actually keeps us from the intimacy we desire.

This is the paradox of fear: In being afraid that you’ll leave me if I fully presence my authentic truth I kill our connection by hiding it from you.

Read more here to find our how you can shift the pattern and go deeper into your connection.

 

Love,

Harmony

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