Thoughts on Shame, Vulnerability, and REAL LOVE

Mar 9, 2017 | emotional attunement, relationships, videos

Thoughts on Shame, Vulnerability, and REAL LOVE

After revealing my body dysmorphia in my most recent video blog, here and on FaceBook, I had a realization about 2 of Brene Brown’s profound teachings.

The first one: Shame keeps us isolated, and in being courageous enough to reveal our shame, we expand in our vulnerability.

The second one: When I puff up on a pedestal of “specialness” or cower in fear of unworthiness,  I keep myself from experiencing real love.

In this video blog, I share with you my thoughts and experience with these concepts, specifically around what happens when I stop managing myself for others.

I’d  love to hear your thoughts.

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