Relationships
Are you speaking your truth or are you just projecting?
It’s common to see our relationships through the lens of unconscious memories of people from our past (projections), through barriers or walls to intimacy (deflections), through old ideas from the past about who we are (introjections), through shame and guilt (retroflections), or through the opinions of others (confluence). In Gestalt psychotherapy, we call these Contact Boundary Disturbances. All of these disturbances are patterned ways of being in relationships that we developed early in life in an attempt to find safety and keep connection. These were adaptable strategies that helped us when we didn’t yet know how to stand in our dignity and our truth.
Is your relationship a reflection of your wholeness or your attachment wounds?
Sometimes, relationships seem hard. The challenge of negotiating different personas, different desires, different opinions, and different communication styles can be overwhelming. Navigating a relationship with conscious awareness means that we are able to...
Three steps to connecting with people who are difficult to connect with.
It happens all the time: Your child tells you to go away. Your friend wants space. Your in-laws are closed off to deep conversation. Your spouse gets triggered and pulls away. How can we connect with those who don't want connection? 1.) Get curious about your...
Become an Emergent Being
Harmony’s Interview with Krysta Gibson of New Spirit Journal: Krysta- Hello and welcome everyone. This is Krysta Gibson with Newspiritjournal.com. Those of you who read these online publication and listen to the interviews that I do know that you’re on a...
Spread Magic. Take a Leap.
For far too long, I forgot that I was magical. I forgot that the essence of my make up was pure, sparkling creative energy that could heal the oldest wounds and reach the depths of intimacy. I thought that the habitual thoughts, impulses, and behaviors of my conditioned self were the extent of who I was. In being identified with the part of myself that was shaped by experiences I had early in life, I lived as if I was who the world told me I was.
Creating Deep Connection in your Relationships
In the past, the way that I have shown up for relationships has prevented me from experiencing deep connection. Even though I am a caring, loving person who is both thoughtful and open, the way in which I hid myself, my experience , and my truth from...
How can you deal with people who trigger you?
Have you ever been triggered? Irritated? Annoyed? Have you ever been jealous? Judgmental? Angry? If you are, in fact, human, you likely answered “Yes!” to all of those questions. I have had countless experiences in my life where I have tried to...
Love: How to Stay Open to Real Love
Like many others, I have been searching for love in an intimate partnership. I have been wanting a partner to love me in a deep, unconditional way that validates my worth and beauty. In that search for love, I have tried to manage myself and others in the...
Thoughts on Shame, Vulnerability, and REAL LOVE
After revealing my body dysmorphia in my most recent video blog, here and on FaceBook, I had a realization about 2 of Brene Brown’s profound teachings. The first one: Shame keeps us isolated, and in being courageous enough to reveal our shame, we expand in...
Baby Proofing your Marriage: Tips to Stay connected
In my very first video blog, I offer you tips to stay connected in your relationship before and after you bring your baby home. Becoming new parents can be stressful. When we’re not feeling resilient in a stressful situation, communication can...
3 Ways to Keep your Marriage Healthy After your Baby Arrives
Weather this is your first baby or your fourth, each time you bring a new life into your family your heart and your love grow. Even though this is the most beautiful and transformative experience, it also extremely stressful. Because I love to see families thrive, I...
How to find Real Love
In case you didn't know, I'm divorced. About 2 years ago I became so clear on the dysfunctional ways I engage in relationships that I could see that my marriage was based in destructive patterns. My ego is shaped to put other people's needs...
Three Common Mistakes People Make that Ruin their Relationships
1.) Expecting your partner to know what you need: in relationship, we often expect our partner to be a mind reader. We want our partner to know how to care for us, touch us, and speak to us without having to ask for it. Then, we resent him or...
6 Tips for Conscious Online Dating
When you first start dating online, it can feel like work. Clarity and intuition are imperative to making online dating an empowering and rewarding process. Here are 6 ways to consciously date online and cultivate true intimacy. Know who you...
4 ways to nurture your marriage, even when you’re overwhelmed with life
When I teach “A Conscious Marriage” and work with couples, the thing I hear most frequently about the lack of connection with one’s partner is that there isn’t enough time. The kids, work, household responsibilities, and social commitments all take up so much space...
