Conditions Treated with Counseling
Harmony Kwiker is a counselor with a private practice in Longmont, CO. She has a Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University, with a concentration in Gestalt psychotherapy. In her work with clients, Harmony uses Gestalt techniques combined with Spiritual Psychology, Somatic Processing, and Mindfulness techniques to treat the following conditions:
Stress and Anxiety:
We all experience stress and anxiety, and we all cope with it differently. Exaggerated or chronic stress and anxiety can put us in a constant state of fear. Your brain becomes so vigilant in trying to keep you safe that the present moment experience of safety is completely missed. “Neurons that fire together, wire together.” This means that the more fearful and stressed you are, the more wired your brain is for fear and stress. This is the cause of chronic anxiety. Neural pathways for fear and anxiety can become so strong that people often feel like there is no other way to experience life.
Getting really clear on the content of the fear is useful in healing; however, creating new experiences and neural connections for your brain is also imperative in creating a different experience of like. Using guided meditations, visualizations, somatic processes, and more, you can literally change the structure of your brain so that you feel more calm and resilient.
When we go into collapse in response to life, we feel disempowered and small in who we are. This pattern likely started many years ago and became the go to response to meeting the stress of life. Creating a new pattern is possible. Using the original event, we can complete any unfinished business that lives within your psyche guiding this pattern. This healing is deep and lasting, and it will empower you to show up to life feeling big in who you are.
Postpartum mood disorders:
When we give birth, anything that is left unhealed seems to come to the surface calling to us to be looked at. Part of this is how our own attachment style and how we were parented gets projected onto our child(ren). We love our children so much that we don’t want them to experience any pain, and this seems to bring up our own unmet needs and unhealed old wounds.
Your healing is your child’s healing. When you use your own pain, depression, anxiety, etc. for the purpose of healing, your child heals, too. Before the age of 7 (when a child fully individuates), there is no separation between you and your child. We call this “the invisible umbilical cord.” When you thrive, your child thrives.
Post-traumatic stress (PTSD) is considered an adaptable response to trauma. We all experience varying degrees of trauma in our lives, and I see this trauma as “mistuning” us. When we are mistuned by trauma, we don’t feel fully like our self—our midline is skewed and we dysregulate in response to minor events. Healing through those experiences that mistuned us allows us to feel like our self again—resilient and whole.
Grief and Loss:
Grief and loss can feel so big–like you’re drowning in an ocean of sadness and suffering. The way grief shapes us can feel so overwhelming. We can feel powerless to the dark and deep emotions that characterize such loss. Whether it’s the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or some other loss that causes you deep pain, moving through the experience with support and awareness is imperative to health and vitality. We all grieve differently, and getting clear on the difference between what your mind “thinks” about the loss versus what your heart “feels” about the loss is important in staying connected. Healing through such pain offers the most amazing opportunity to keep your heart open regardless of what occurs in the world outside of us. And when you tap into the courage it takes to walk through such darkness, you feel more empowered in life than ever before.
When we look to our partner for the source of our happiness, the marriage/relationship suffers greatly. Infidelity, arguments, separation, anger, and so on can taint the connection that used to be so dear. The work in marriage/couples counseling becomes about communicating from your true self, where infinite love and solution reside. When you’re in this place, intimacy, and connection thrive: You can process your past grievances with love rather than resentment. You can ask for behavior changes consciously rather than with reaction. And you can be open and receptive to the love that is available to you, rather than earn or demand it. Your relationship is the most amazing place for your personal growth when you are conscious and connected to your true self.