Body Image: How can I learn to love my body AND lose weight?

I started yo-yo dieting when I was just six years old, and the path to a healthy weight and body image has been hard won. From the many years of navigating this body, from experiencing obesity and a postpartum physique, I have come to know that my weight is a reflection of my inner state. There is no separation.

When I focus on having a body that looks like the images I see on media, I allow my mind to get tricked into thinking that the source of my happiness and health is caught up in weighing a certain amount. “If I lost five more pounds…” is a common thought that trolls around my mind. Nonsense.

The truth is that every freakin diet in the world cannot give me what it is that my awareness can. When I turn on the Light of my Awareness and connect to my source of happiness, I get so fulfilled and joyous that my body naturally comes into a healthy weight. I know this might sound magical, but it has been wholly true for me on my journey.

While I’m still updating my story of my actual appearance, my body is a reflection of my connection to my true self, and this is the most liberating diet plan I have ever been on. I share some of my story in this video blog, and I’d love to hear your thoughts,comments, and questions.

Lots of love,

Harmony

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It’s common to see our relationships through the lens of unconscious memories of people from our past (projections), through barriers or walls to intimacy (deflections), through old ideas from the past about who we are (introjections), through shame and guilt (retroflections), or through the opinions of others (confluence). In Gestalt psychotherapy, we call these Contact Boundary Disturbances. All of these disturbances are patterned ways of being in relationships that we developed early in life in an attempt to find safety and keep connection. These were adaptable strategies that helped us when we didn’t yet know how to stand in our dignity and our truth.

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I love how nothing is taboo in this magnificent work. She sensitively reveals her own experiences with: growing up with a free-thinking, lesbian mother; dealing with compulsive eating and post-partum depression; doubting her lovability and her worth; and seeking validation through sex.

In the end, the reader comes away inspired and uplifted: If she can do it, I can do it! Pain can indeed be a doorway to the light. You really can develop beyond the limits of your personality type and your conditioning. Daily life really is the most compelling spiritual practice.

I urge you to get this book and read it all the way through as an act of self-care. I believe you’ll be much wiser for taking this journey with this gifted author.

~ Susan Campbell, Ph.D. Author of Getting Real, Truth in Dating, and Five-Minute Relationship Repair

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